The Accountability Factor

The Accountability Factor

This morning I woke up and headed over to my closet to get dressed to go hiking.  As I was looking for the flashlight button for my phone, I noticed a text from my hiking partner saying she wouldn’t be able to hike because she had to get to the office early.

And the fight began.  Not with her!  The one in my head.

‘It’s 5:30 in the morning!  It’s dark.  Windy.  Cold.  She’s not coming – you could just go back to bed where it’s warm.  You could go later…’  But I knew.  I knew I wouldn’t go later, because if I didn’t go at our normal time, I wouldn’t be able to go at all.

I texted my friend back saying “No worries!  I will still go hiking as if you were here.”  And she responded by saying “Yep, the accountability factor!”

The Accountability Factor.  It’s huge!  Knowing that someone cares whether I am doing what I said I’d do, is important to me.  There’s a sense of responsibility to complete the task.   Not wanting to disappoint someone.  In this case?  I don’t think she would have blamed me, or even cared, had I not gone.

But I knew!  And I cared! Because I want to be a person of my word.  When I say I’m going to do something, I want to do it.  Especially if someone is counting on me.  It’s a sign of character.  The character of truthfulness, taking responsibility, keeping my word even if it costs me time or even money.

The harder thing though, is keeping my word to myself.  Somehow it doesn’t count as much when I make a deal with ‘me’.  It’s easy to put my stuff on the back burner when it relates to making healthy choices – what to eat or drink, when to go to bed or when to say no to something that doesn’t align with my passions or values.  But the feelings of disappointment, sadness and even guilt are just the same as if I had let down a friend.  And I don’t like that feeling.sunrise2

Because I’ve learned over the years that I have a tendency to keep my word for others better than I keep my word for me, I’ve learned to tell others of my intentions.   Especially if they’re hard ones!  I know, if on the off-chance someone  asks me about what I’ve told them, I don’t want to disappoint them.  And in the process, I’ve learned not to disappoint me!

My ‘prize’ for going this morning?  I heard owls hooting in a tree (because it was quiet… I wasn’t talking!), and an amazing sunrise.  Again.  Those sunrises are worth getting up for, here in Arizona!  And I’m totally glad I didn’t give in to my desire to crawl back into bed.

What intentions are you not carrying through with because it’s easier to give in to the fight?  Tell someone your plan – not so they do it for you, but to help you keep your word.  You can even hire a coach – not only to help you be accountable, but to help you set those intentions and reach your goals faster than you’ve been able to in the past.

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One Response to “The Accountability Factor”

  1. Evelyn Dafoe says:

    I’ve done this often in my life.Thank you for putting it in play for me again.Especially this time of TEMPTING holidays Have a great Holiday

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